Mobiles Cry in Childish Tunes !!!

" Klee, klee, kloo, kloo....where is the sound from ?  Suresh turned back. A myna was sitting on the ground...."                               
(From my textbook, std: 2B, year:1980)


Long after those sweet decades of natural music, now I am living in a dramatic background of artificial sounds,noisy ring tunes and meaningless thoughts. I confess myself,  I am also totally addicted to electronic media!! If  I am so,I have no right to blame a child. But I was totally disturbed on her love to mobile phones.

It has been only six or seven years,since mobile phones started their cracking sounds in our lonely villages. Rapidly their 'ranges' increased. Now mobiles are not rare things. Even every beggar and burglar of the country ( including myself..haha!!) owns it. India is growing as a powerful country,they say, including in  its cellphone markets !!

But slowly most people recognise that this nice looking equipment is as harmful as a nuclear reactor, because of  its colourless and odorless radiations. If it is harmful, how it affects our innocent children ?

There are many studies and contradictory reports on the issue,I have read, favorable to both parties. Somebody says that it affects brain tissues and some reports say not. So it is safer to keep our 'thin-skulled' children away from using mobile phones. The don'ts are more than enough...!!

• Don't allow our little ones to talk on mobiles for more than a  few seconds.
• Keep them away from mobile phone games. It may affect their eye sight.
• Don't allow them to use head phones. It may affect their hearings.

But now a days mobiles are little computers and we cannot prevent them totally and cannot stop the 'future citizen' from using it.

What can we do when a little child quarrels for getting our mobile phones? Hoo.. At last I discovered and my discovery is as important as the Amundsen's discovery of Antarctica. Can you guess...?

Allow her to take photographs using mobile cams !!

 I think it is a comparatively harmless activity and motivating too. Though you are not interested in my discovery, I am very much interested in the photos taken by my child and she is interested in focusing more and more photos...!! Her photo album is to be published soon in Facebook...!!!

Forgot Quizzing Her Everyday ?

Ever thought of  quizzing  your child? I was very much interested once, though she sometimes answered  'Manmohan Singh' instead of 'tiger'.

Yes, I mean nothing but asking questions to your lovely and talkative child. But I know the child asks you hundreds of questions everyday. You always get irritated on her complicated questions and call them meaningless or nonsense !! Why the crow is black? How the cow got four legs? See,they are not meaningless,but what else  would we do if we don't know the answer !!

But we, parents are to be inspired on the stories of the American Indian boy, who won the first prize in the worldwide quiz competition,conducted by the National Geographics!

When the child starts to hear and learn, train her to answer your simple questions such as; The colour of a crow ?Name your country ? President of America ?...??

Though the child wont catch the meaning of your questions initially, the child gets the images slowly when it sees a crow,watches the map of your country or the picture of  Mr.Obama. Our aim is but giving initial inspiration !! Allow the child to be on your laps for a limited time, when you browse on the net.

There have been some 'quiz competitions' between I and my child. Sometimes I am the quiz master and sometimes she is. Thanking her pre-school magazine for introducing an interesting story on quiz competition. It was there we started, I remember. Let it be retold shortly for your child.

"The fox,little Pachu could not win any game in the forest festival. The last item was the quiz competition. He decided to win it anyway ! The fat bear Dhimman was the quiz master. He told the bear that he would supply him enough honey,if he helps. Though first opposed,the bear admitted it on honey matter. The bear taught him only the answers in its order,as the lazy fox suggested. Dhimman got more than enough honey. But when the quiz started, the quiz master forgot the order of the questions on the influence of honey. He asked; which is the largest land animal? Pachu answered 'frog'. The bird laying largest egg? 'elephant'. One that lives in water and land? ostrich. Poor Pachu..the whole forest was laughing at him".

Start with a similar story and see your child becoming excited ! Your simple questions might inspire him to the world of encyclopedias and the mysteries of  the universe !! You can win yourself  when he becomes a great one as a scientist or a professor or a civil service officer in future.  

Only Child Is But Not a Lonely Child

Why everybody asks Mrs.Neena to have one more child ? Are they worried on her single child ?
My wife's name is not Neena. But I have to consider  the  facts and go through the same problematic situations till I have one more child ! Read only if you are the father/mother of a single child.

Nuclear families have been the trademark or necessity of the modern world! As the working class becomes more 'workaholic' or dedicated,it is difficult to be concentrated in building up a large family. Many families determine themselves, the number of children to be one only. We cannot blame them on their decision,as there are many facts beyond it. The cases may be different from one to another. It may be economic,cultural,social or medical problems.

The working class of Indians in abroad or in Indian cities are on their own problems. The inter-cast married ones are afraid of the future of their children. In countries like China,women have no right to be pregnant more than once! In some wealthy western countries,people have not enough life-time to enjoy life!! But often,the parents of a single child are felt guilty on their decision,when the society blames them on the loneliness of  their children. Such children are sometimes pointed out to be introverts or problem makers.But I strongly disagree with these.

An only child is not a lonely child. A family with only one child is as beautiful as a single flower. Such single children are also  lucky in the sense that they get the maximum care from their parents. It is easy to mould such a single child into a great one as their parents wish. What and only what the child is denied in his early days is that his house is not a 'children's park' at all.

Now a days loneliness is not a problem for children, as there are many social sites,internet  programmes or video games to be involved in,but there should be a strict monitoring. The presence of grandparents or cousins or playmates make them happier. It is usual that every children felt neglected at some time.They complain that 'dad is always with the computer' or 'mother is not playing with me'.

 Though enough care is necessary,it should not be more than enough! It will spoil the child. Women,such as non-working mothers of single children would be conscious of it. The children should not have provided with more toys or dresses or nothing else. But give them enough initial inspiration.Your child will be as powerful as Indira Gandhi, the former prime minister of  India and the ever seen iron lady of  the country.     

Have You Selected Valuable Toys For Your Children?

Now a days there is no complication in buying a toy for our beloved children.People have enough money to spend comparing with those in former decades.Toys are available in different colours,shapes and sizes,varying in cost from high cost Indian made or Japanese made toys to low cost but attractive Chinese toys.The world of toys grows in high speed and even faster than the growth of emerging Asian markets.Thus every layman is able to buy toys from anywhere.

However as a brilliant father or mother you have to think about the intrinsic value of the toy you have selected.The toy selected by you may be colourful,attractive and suitable for the age of the child.But I ask you about the strategies you have kept in mind,when you select a toy so as to make him/her a brilliant and outstanding one in future!!Let me share my own ideas with you.Toys have both aesthetic and intellectual values.As the aesthetic value helps him to enjoy the beauty of the world around him,the intellectual value helps him to discover the unrevealed facts in the universe.More over,toys have social values too,which helps the child to adjust with his surroundings.

I believe that the first five years make a child best performer in life.Thus as a brilliant parent,you should be well prepared in selecting toys too.A toy you are buying for him should have an intrinsic value whether the toy is cheap or costly.Thus you can introduce building blocks or cubes or cross-words in proper years.It is necessary that you should find some time to spend with him in his games with these bright toys.

Let me conclude with my own experience with a pack of toys.One of my cousin's daughter was presented a set of small and beautiful Chinese toys of wild animals.She kept it for two or three days with her and left it somewhere.Keeping this in mind,before buying the same set of toys for my own child,I had taught her many facts about wild life such as Giraffe is the tallest and Elephant is the largest.Then she was eagerly waiting for getting it and by two or three days,she was able to say that Zebras and Giraffes are found in Africa.Just to introduce Africa to the three year old child,I used a world map downloaded from the net.There were many animals in the set which were not known even to me!We together searched the internet for many days and identified most of them.This also helped her to use the mouse of the computer herself.Even after one year she is interested in playing with and knowing them.Thus the set,which costs only Rs.225 became a most valuable one for both of us.Any of us can guide our children with a toy,if we are able to find an intrinsic value in it,keeping in mind that our guidance is a necessity in forming a future citizen.